You’re Not Overreacting—Why Your Worry Is Valid and What to Do With It

If you’re a parent of a child with a health condition—whether asthma, eczema, food allergies, or something else—you’ve probably been told: “Don’t worry so much.” But here’s the truth: your worry is valid. Concern is a natural part of protecting your child, and it doesn’t mean you’re overreacting. The key is learning what to do with that worry so it doesn’t take over.

1. Your Anxiety Is Rooted in Love

Parental anxiety often comes from wanting to keep your child safe and healthy. Recognize that this worry comes from love, not weakness.

2. Normalize the Worry, Don’t Shame It

You’re not alone. Many parents with kids who have chronic health conditions feel heightened anxiety. Naming it helps reduce shame and opens the door for healthy coping.

3. Focus on What You Can Control

Worry feels overwhelming when it spirals into “what ifs.” Redirect your energy toward actions:

• Create a clear health plan with your child’s care team.

• Keep necessary supplies on hand (like inhalers or epinephrine) in a compact kit.

• Teach your child age-appropriate self-care skills.

4. Give Yourself Permission to Rest

Constant vigilance is exhausting. Build a support system so you don’t have to carry the load alone. It’s okay to ask for help from friends, family, or a trusted sitter trained in your child’s needs.

5. Use Anxiety as a Signal, Not a Lifestyle

When worry pops up, treat it like a “check engine light.” Ask yourself: “Do I need to take action, or do I need to remind myself my child is safe right now?”

Final Thoughts

Your worry doesn’t make you an overreacting parent—it makes you a caring one. By validating your anxiety and channeling it into practical steps, you can protect your child and yourself.